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Friday Frolics – 12th August 2016

Welcome to Friday Frolics, the linky with the giggles. Friday Frolics is hosted by myself, Claire at Life, Love and Dirty Dishes, and Emma at Island Living 365. It’s the place to link up your funny posts and snort your tea whilst enjoying some others.

Thank you so much to everyone who linked up last week. You all out did yourselves with the funny, linking up some truly hilarious posts.

 
Friday Favourites

My favourite post from last week: Single Mum Speaks – That’s Not a Baby’s Name. Min discusses the minefield of baby naming. Apparently, her son is not actually called Piglet. Who knew?! But he doesn’t have a baby’s name either. And Princess is never acceptable. For anyone, not just Piglet, who probably isn’t called Princess.

Claire’s favourite post: ‘You The Daddy – The Gross Side Of Pregnancy. So true. I Ioved the bit about the bath, having spent virtually nine months in the tub when I was pregnant with my first. It was the only place I could get comfortable. But getting out? Wowzers!’

Emma’s favourite post: ‘The Unsung Mummy – How to Be a Good Parent Employer and Not Be a Twat. This post reminded me why I am very lucky to be a stay-at-home mum. No twattish employers for me – hurrah! Hilarious post with brilliant drawings that illustrate all points marvellously. Every employer in the land needs to read this!’

 
Most Read Post

Mumzilla – Real Life Birth vs Movie Birth

 
If you missed these posts last week, do check them out – guaranteed a laugh.

Friday Favourites writers: Please feel free to grab the Featured Blogger badge below.

 

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I am looking forward to all the fun and frolics, but first for a couple of serious bits.

The Rules:

1. Make us laugh! Friday Frolics is all about the funny, so please no reviews, or how to make a finger puppet (unless, of course, they are hilarious).

2. Include the Friday Frolics badge in the post that you are linking. If you do not include the badge, you will not be eligible to feature as a Friday Favourite.

3. Comment on one of each of the hosts’ posts, and at least one other post for every post you link up. Share the fun people! Use #FridayFrolics when you comment on posts so people can see where you are linking from.

4. You can link up to 2 posts, old or new.

 
Other Stuff:

By joining this linky, you consent to receiving e-mails from me about Friday Frolics.

Follow us on twitter and tweet your links to @lifeloveanddd @sillymummy88 using #FridayFrolics for a RT.

The Linky will open at 8pm on Thursday evening, and close at 11pm on Sunday.

 
Now, on with the linky…

 

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Friday Frolics – 5th August 2016

Welcome to Friday Frolics, the linky with the giggles. Friday Frolics is hosted by myself, Claire at Life, Love and Dirty Dishes, and Emma at Island Living 365. It’s the place to link up your funny posts and snort your tea whilst enjoying some others.

Thank you so much to everyone who linked up last week. You all out did yourselves with the funny, linking up some truly hilarious posts.

 
Friday Favourites

My favourite post from last week: Nipper & Tyke – How to Host the Perfect Barbecue. Forget all those unachievable guides to perfect hostessing – this is the correct and only way to host a barbecue (or any kind of party). And those bloody bubble wands!

Claire’s favourite post: ‘Rhyming With Wine – A Soft-Play Rite Of Passage…Sniff. I love posts that can simultaneously make me laugh and cry. It’s a true testament to brilliant writing, and Dawn’s poem did just that.’

Emma’s favourite post: ‘Right Royal Mother – Bringing America’s Sippy Cup Back Home. Another brilliantly witty post from Polly, that involves the most expensive Pimms known to man, and a low flying, exploding nappy! Typical day out then.’

 
If you missed these posts last week, do check them out – guaranteed a laugh.

Friday Favourites writers: Please feel free to grab the Featured Blogger badge below.

 

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I am looking forward to all the fun and frolics, but first for a couple of serious bits.

The Rules:

1. Make us laugh! Friday Frolics is all about the funny, so please no reviews, or how to make a finger puppet (unless, of course, they are hilarious).

2. Include the Friday Frolics badge in the post that you are linking. If you do not include the badge, you will not be eligible to feature as a Friday Favourite.

3. Comment on one of each of the hosts’ posts, and at least one other post for every post you link up. Share the fun people! Use #FridayFrolics when you comment on posts so people can see where you are linking from.

4. You can link up to 2 posts, old or new.

 
Other Stuff:

By joining this linky, you consent to receiving e-mails from me about Friday Frolics.

Follow us on twitter and tweet your links to @lifeloveanddd @sillymummy88 using #FridayFrolics for a RT.

The Linky will open at 8pm on Thursday evening, and close at 11pm on Sunday.

 
Now, on with the linky…

 

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Friday Frolics – 29th July 2016

Welcome to Friday Frolics, the linky with the giggles. Friday Frolics is hosted by myself, Claire at Life, Love and Dirty Dishes, and Emma at Island Living 365. It’s the place to link up your funny posts and snort your tea whilst enjoying some others.

Thank you so much to everyone who linked up last week. Once again, a fantastic selection of wit and hilarity. This week I will mostly be in disarray, and I am therefore linking up an old post, which may or may not still be funny (indeed, it may or may not have ever been funny).

 
Friday Favourites

My favourite post from last week: A Life Just Ordinary – 11 Things I Never Knew About Myself. James’ funny account of the things he has learnt about himself since becoming a father. Plus, he has had to write it twice, so please appreciate his efforts!

Claire’s favourite post: ‘Fizzy Jazzle – Get Your Willy Off Your Plate. Best title ever, and as a mum of 2 boys I could totally relate!’

 
If you missed these posts last week, do check them out – guaranteed a laugh.

Friday Favourites writers: Please feel free to grab the Featured Blogger badge below.

 

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I am looking forward to all the fun and frolics, but first for a couple of serious bits.

The Rules:

1. Make us laugh! Friday Frolics is all about the funny, so please no reviews, or how to make a finger puppet (unless, of course, they are hilarious).

2. Include the Friday Frolics badge in the post that you are linking. If you do not include the badge, you will not be eligible to feature as a Friday Favourite.

3. Comment on one of each of the hosts’ posts, and at least one other post for every post you link up. Share the fun people! Use #FridayFrolics when you comment on posts so people can see where you are linking from.

4. You can link up to 2 posts, old or new.

 
Other Stuff:

By joining this linky, you consent to receiving e-mails from me about Friday Frolics.

Follow us on twitter and tweet your links to @lifeloveanddd @sillymummy88 using #FridayFrolics for a RT.

The Linky will open at 8pm on Thursday evening, and close at 11pm on Sunday.

 
Now, on with the linky…

 

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Nominations for the Mumsnet Blogging Awards 2016 are open until 31st July. If you find me at all amusing, I would love nominations in the Best Comic Writer category. Nominating is very simple by following the link above. Thank you for reading my shameless begging.

Friday Frolics – 22nd July 2016

Welcome to Friday Frolics, the linky with the giggles. Friday Frolics is hosted by myself, Claire at Life, Love and Dirty Dishes, and Emma at Island Living 365. It’s the place to link up your funny posts and snort your tea whilst enjoying some others.

This week Friday Frolics will be hosted by Claire and myself, as Emma is taking a short break.

Thank you so much to everyone who linked up last week. We had a plethora (I’m using big and clever words these days to befit my new linky co-host role) of hilarious posts.

 
Friday Favourites

My favourite post from last week: Mummy Muckups – Snot Funny.
Hilarious account of the trauma we’ve all endured when our kid is THAT kid. The one who won’t leave playgroup peacefully.

Claire’s favourite post: ‘Mumzilla – The Grades of Embarrassment. I laughed and cringed in equal measure. Especially the Barber shop one.’

Emma’s favourite post: ‘Absolutely Prabulous – First Case of Exhausted Mother Reported as School Year Ends. Schools have broken up for the summer, and the kids are tired but giddy. But what about the parents? Tired mums (and dads) everywhere will be able to relate to this classic post by Prabs. A great example of a ‘viral’ post. It’s hilarious!’

 
If you missed these posts last week, do check them out – guaranteed a laugh.

Friday Favourites writers: Please feel free to grab the Featured Blogger badge below.

 

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I am looking forward to all the fun and frolics, but first for a couple of serious bits.

The Rules:

1. Make us laugh! Friday Frolics is all about the funny, so please no reviews, or how to make a finger puppet (unless, of course, they are hilarious).

2. Include the Friday Frolics badge in the post that you are linking. If you do not include the badge, you will not be eligible to feature as a Friday Favourite.

3. Comment on one of each of the hosts’ posts, and at least one other post for every post you link up. Share the fun people! Use #FridayFrolics when you comment on posts so people can see where you are linking from.

4. You can link up to 2 posts, old or new.

 
Other Stuff:

By joining this linky, you consent to receiving e-mails from me about Friday Frolics.

Follow us on twitter and tweet your links to @lifeloveanddd @sillymummy88 using #FridayFrolics for a RT.

The Linky will open at 8pm on Thursday evening, and close at 11pm on Sunday.

 
Now, on with the linky…

 

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Nominations for the Mumsnet Blogging Awards 2016 are open until 31st July. If you find me at all amusing, I would love nominations in the Best Comic Writer category. Nominating is very simple by following the link above. Thank you for reading my shameless begging.

Friday Frolics – 15th July 2016

Welcome to Friday Frolics, the linky with the giggles. Friday Frolics is hosted by myself, Claire at Life, Love and Dirty Dishes, and Emma at Island Living 365. It’s the place to link up your funny posts and snort your tea whilst enjoying some others.

Yes, I am very excited to be announcing that I am now a co-host of Claire’s fantastic Friday Frolics linky. As a committed writer of utter silliness, Friday Frolics has always been the perfect linky for me, and I couldn’t be happier to be involved.

Here’s hoping the hilarity continues to come only from all your funny posts, and not from my utter incompetence at co-hosting a linky, but I make no guarantees.

 
 
I am looking forward to all the fun and frolics, but first for a couple of serious bits.

The Rules:

1. Make us laugh! Friday Frolics is all about the funny, so please no reviews, or how to make a finger puppet (unless, of course, they are hilarious).

2. Include the Friday Frolics badge in the post that you are linking. If you do not include the badge, you will not be eligible to feature as a Friday Favourite.

3. Comment on one of each of the hosts’ posts, and at least one other post for every post you link up. Share the fun people! Use #FridayFrolics when you comment on posts so people can see where you are linking from.

4. You can link up to 2 posts, old or new.

 
Other Stuff:

By joining this linky, you consent to receiving e-mails from me about Friday Frolics.

Follow us on twitter and tweet your links to @lifeloveanddd @sillymummy88 and @islandliving365 using #FridayFrolics for a RT.

The Linky will open at 8pm on Thursday evening, and close at 11pm on Sunday.

 
Now, on with the linky…

 

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Nominations for the Mumsnet Blogging Awards 2016 are open until 31st July. If you find me at all amusing, I would love nominations in the Best Comic Writer category. Nominating is very simple by following the link above. Thank you for reading my shameless begging.

A Quick Guide to the Blog

blog-headerDespite knowing it was The Toddler’s birthday (and receiving due thanks), I managed to miss my birthday. Well, not my birthday, but the blog’s birthday. It was last month. Just before The Toddler’s, in fact. As discussed, I knew it was The Toddler’s birthday, so probably should have been able to remember the blog’s birthday. But I didn’t. Too late now. Let it Go, as we DO NOT sing in this house.

Having entirely failed to write a first birthday post for the blog, I have decided to write an introductory/guide post for the blog instead. This is it, by the way. It’s an inauspicious start to such a post, admittedly. It may get better. It may not. There’s only one way to find out.

The blog started when The Toddler was about to turn two, and The Baby was eight months old, It began its life as a series of humorous posts about things The Toddler said and did. Occasionally The Baby was involved. The Ten Funniest Things The Toddler Said Last Week series was quickly born, and is fairly self explanatory. Recently, the series has gained a ‘Baby’s Corner’ section for the now chatty Baby.

Of course, over the year, the blog has evolved somewhat. The Baby is now also a toddler. A change of names for them is therefore long overdue, and was even planned (there was a vote and everything), but it turns out I’m quite attached to the original names. The central tenets of humour and toddlers remain. The Ten Funniest Things feature continues, as do some posts documenting The Toddler’s exploits. They frequently seem to involve her slightly concerning adventures as a doctor-hairdresser (she does think that’s a thing). Her efforts trick or treating at Halloween were a particular highlight for me.

However, you will now also find my attempts at witty observations on life with toddlers, lessons from physics to art via mathematics as brought to you by toddlers, tips on crafts and baking with toddlers for those failing at Pinterest (and motherhood), and the occasional parody (these may not be my strong point). Oh, and Christmas. So excited was the blog about Christmas, it really should have its own category (the parodies may have gone into overdrive). There is even the very occasional serious post tucked in there.

You can select categories of posts from the drop down menus along the top of the blog. These are separated into funny and serious posts, and then further subcategories (lists, The Toddler, The Baby, Randoms…). The Toddler Lessons and Ten Funniest Things The Toddler Said series can both be found under funny posts. If you would like to follow me on social media, the links can also be found along the top.

 
 
So, that is a summary of what you can find on the blog. If you decide to stick around, I hope you enjoy the surreal ramblings and eccentric toddlers on offer.

 
 
If you want a selection of favourite/popular posts from a completely biased source (me), you could take a look at a few from the list below.

 
Toddler Lessons Series

My favourites are probably Toddler Art or Toddler Literature, the most viewed is Toddler Laws of Physics.

 
Favourite Funnies

Game Show Skills Acquired by Parents of Toddlers

The Toddler West

Toddler Proverbs

Slogans for World War Terrible Twos

Toddler Interior Design Tips

No one Expects The Toddler Inquisition: Toddler Torture Methods

How (Not) to Make an Easter Nest With Toddlers

The Toddler Riddle

The Toddler Highway Code

The Sheriff of Downing Street: Have We Regressed to the Middle Ages?

 
Favourite Serious Posts

Only the Weak Are Cruel

Why Breast v Formula Should Not Be a Debate

Pass the Sauce Linky – Week 6

Having successfully managed not to actually break the linky last week, I am very pleased that the lovely Agent Spitback has allowed me to co-host her #PasstheSauce linky again this week.

I regret to inform you, however, that both The Toddler and The Baby have been fired from their positions as Mini Co-co-host 1 and Mini Co-co-host 2. They were, frankly, utterly useless last week. They did not pull their weight at all. Not a single post read or commented on between them, not even a whiff of a tweet sent. Disappointing. (On the plus side, I may have finally succeeded in finding the long needed new names for The Toddler and The Baby. Mini Co-co-hosts 1 and 2 has a ring to it, right? No?)

I am very much looking forward to reading your amazing posts. Therefore, following just a few rules and some fantastic featured posts, let’s get on with the linky.

 
 
The Gospel According to the Agent informs us:

‘#PasstheSauce Linky, like all the sauces in the world, welcomes all sorts of posts, from crafts, reviews, rants, DIY, parenting, stories, poetry, humour, just about anything and everything. Remember this is all about community and spreading the #blogginglove.

So dust off those cake crumbs, please comment on the Host post, the Guest Co-Host and the post before yours, and of course any other posts you would like to read and comment. If you do not put the badge or comment, you will not be eligible in being featured. It is not about the linky, it is all about the community. You can’t blog alone!’

 
 
The Most Viewed Post Winner

Our most viewed post Winner this week is Susan Mann – Starting Nursery and How it Is Going. A lovely post on how her daughter is settling in Nursery. Susan knows how much I love those shoes!!
Congratulations, Susan, please take your badge crown!

 

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#PasstheSauce Picks of the Week

The Agent’s Picks:

1. Double the Monkey Business – The Bedtime Ninja. I’m sure we’ve all had our own little bedtime ninjas, wriggling into our beds! This is a creative and funny way of telling that story!

2. Handy Herbs – Miniature Peter Rabbit Garden. Sara shows us a fun way to create a miniature garden, Peter Rabbit style, including a little blue jacket and gates. Go and have a peek as my words cannot do her pictures justice.

Silly Mummy’s Picks:

1. Mummy in a Tutu – How to Get Noticed as a Blogger…Boobs & Arse. Katie, in conjunction with Catie from Diary of an Imperfect Mother, rules out flashing boobs and arse in favour of blogging for yourself and not comparing yourself to others. Wise words of reassurance for those feeling lost in a sea of blogs.

2. Life is Knutts – The Key to a Happy Marriage in 10 Easy Steps. Gemma provides her hilarious and realistic guide to maintaining a happy relationship. Check it out. And remember not to go overboard with spousal appreciation – a thumbs up will suffice.

 
 
The Rules

Please link up ONE post, old or new.

They can be on any subject, except giveaways.

Please use the linky badge on any posts you link up.

Please comment on the post before yours, and also on both host* and co-host posts.

Please comment and share the blogging love. You will only receive back what you give out, except for Cake.

The linky will run from 11am (GMT) Tuesday to 11am Thursday. We will share any posts that have been tweeted to us using the hashtag #Passthesauce and our twitter names @AgentSpitback and @sillymummy88.

If you link up, you are agreeing to be notified of future link ups.

*Important message from the Agent, regarding her linked post:

‘I am experimenting this week. FOR MY HOST POST this week, I am linking my Facebook Post as my Host Post — feel free to give a comment (or not), OR a Like (or not), OR a share (or not), OR just laugh (or not)! No pressure here, I am just up to my usual nonsense at testing the boundaries. I just want to do something different, and share posts that I normally do not publish on my blog. If you can’t see or comment on the Facebook post for whatever reason, feel free to comment on any of my other posts on my blog.’

 

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BritMumsI am very excited to have been shortlisted in the ‘Writer’ category in the BiB Awards. If you’ve heard of my blog, like my blog, don’t want to vote for someone else in my category, aren’t sick of people asking, and have a minute to spare, I would love your vote! You can vote here.

Pass the Sauce Linky – Week 5

I am very excited that the amazing Agent Spitback has allowed me to co-host her lovely #PasstheSauce linky with her. Behold: my first linky post!

The Toddler is, of course, also very excited. (‘I want to try a link up! I’m thinking about doing link ups. Mummy, you can you do your link up while I’m thinking about doing my link up. I think I’ll do it next week.’ Agent Spitback? New co-host for you next week? Very enthusiastic.) Granted, The Toddler does not know what she’s excited about, but she is not one to let that get in her way, and is excited nonetheless. The Baby is also very excited, as long as The Toddler suggests it to her. Anything I suggest to The Baby tends to be met with: ‘No!’ Unless it’s biccys.

The Toddler, The Baby and I* are very much looking forward to reading all the wonderful posts we know will be linked up. Therefore, without further ado…except for a few rules (no ado, some rules)…oh, and some featured posts (no ado, a little fanfare, some rules)…let’s get on with the linky.

(*Admittedly, this may mostly be me. All attempts by The Toddler to read your posts are likely to result in an announcement that they say: ‘Dear The Toddler…’ The Baby believes all writing says ‘cake’. Agent Spitback may agree with her on that one.)

 
 
The Gospel According to the Agent informs us:

‘#PasstheSauce Linky, like all the sauces in the world, welcomes all sorts of posts, from crafts, reviews, rants, DIY, parenting, stories, poetry, humour, just about anything and everything. Remember this is all about community and spreading the #blogginglove.

So dust off those cake crumbs, please comment on the Host post, the Guest Co-Host and the post before yours, and of course any other posts you would like to read and comment. If you do not put the badge or comment, you will not be eligible in being featured. It is not about the linky, it is all about the community. You can’t blog alone!’

 
 
The Most Viewed Post Winner

Our most viewed post Winner this week is Domesticated Momster – Marriage Does Not Work on Auto-Pilot!
Congratulations, Trista, please take your badge crown!

 

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#PasstheSauce Picks of the Week

The Agent’s Picks :

1. Domesticated Momster – Marriage Does Not Work on Auto-Pilot – This is a first! Most Viewed & Featured Blogger For #PasstheSauce, but this post is definitely a must read. Trista writes honestly about what a marriage is really about – work, lots of work. But along with that reality, comes the realisation that there is also love. It is no surprise to me that Trista is the first to be Most Viewed and Featured Blogger – the post is well worth a read.

2. We Forgot The Sperm – Give Elsa a Girlfriend – This is a brilliant post about the latest twitter trending, #GiveElsaAGirlfriend, and Laura’s take on this. She says brilliantly – “Why can’t we just leave it there? Why can’t Elsa’s story be that she doesn’t “need” romantic love?” I loved Frozen precisely because it was about sibling love.

Rhyming With Wine’s Picks :

1. 1 week to 30 – A Look Back on My 20s – A fantastic post by “Our Rach”, which tells the story of her twenties: the ups and downs, the hairstyles (*keeps a straight face*) and the lessons learned. Happy birthday! Welcome to the cool side of 30! This is where the best cake is at!

2. This Mum’s Life – I’m Better Than A Disney Parent – I laughed all the way through this one, and was particularly impressed by the expert knowledge of Julie Andrews’ characters and story lines. I must admit that I will never quite watch either of these two particular legendary films again in quite the same way. Just fantastic! Please pop by and have a read.

 
 
The Rules

Please link up ONE post, old or new.

They can be on any subject, except giveaways.

Please use the linky badge on any posts you link up.

Please comment on the post before yours, and also on both host and co-host posts.

Please comment and share the blogging love. You will only receive back what you give out, except for Cake.

The linky will run from 11am (GMT) Tuesday to 11am Thursday. We will share any posts that have been tweeted to us using the hashtag #Passthesauce and our twitter names @AgentSpitback and @sillymummy88.

If you link up, you are agreeing to be notified of future link ups.

 

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BritMumsI am very excited to have been shortlisted in the ‘Writer’ category in the BiB Awards. If you’ve heard of my blog, like my blog, don’t want to vote for someone else in my category, aren’t sick of people asking, and have a minute to spare, I would love your vote! You can vote here.

Shameless Plea Post: BiB Awards Shortlisted Blog

BritMums

This is not the post I was expecting to be writing today. It would appear that I have somehow been shortlisted in the category of ‘Writer’ in the Britmums Brilliance in Blogging Awards.

Now, this was something of a shock in many ways. Not least because I, having no previous experience of blogging awards, had assumed that the shortlisted bloggers were notified privately before the list was published. Therefore, when I saw the link for the shortlisted bloggers on someone’s facebook page, I opened it just to have a bit of a nosy at who got through. Obviously, I knew I hadn’t got through. I hadn’t been notified, after all. Well, I merrily scanned my way through half of the list, pleased to see some favourites on there, before I saw ‘R is for Hoppit’. I carried on scanning for about two seconds. Wait. R is for Hoppit? That seems familiar. What??

Of course, I picked up my phone and started to call the parents. I hung up the phone. Obviously, I had imagined seeing my blog. It was going to be very embarrassing explaining that I had accidentally announced my imaginary shortlisting. I returned to the list and performed further checks. I could still see it. I called the parents.

Following this, I realised I had no idea what I was supposed to do next. Get a bit excited, go on twitter, hope it didn’t turn out to be a mistake – this seemed like a good initial plan. Anyway, I have now received my notification from Britmums, I have not yet been informed of a terrible mistake, and therefore I am going in and writing my shameless plea post (et voila).

All I want to say is that I am very excited to have been shortlisted. I love writing, and I am particularly pleased to have been shortlisted in the ‘Writer’ category.* I am very grateful to everyone who nominated me. I will obviously be thrilled if anyone would like to vote for me now, and the link is below.

If anyone wants to know how this works, the shortlisted bloggers will now be whittled down to five finalists in each category, comprised of the two with the most public votes and three selected by judges. Voting closes at midnight on 18th May 2016. Each person can only submit one voting form. You can vote here.

Of course, I would love and appreciate votes, but there are so many fantastic and talented bloggers in each category – all deserving of votes – that I would like to say please do make sure you vote, whether for me or not.

Thank you to everyone who reads and supports my blog, and thank you for reading my shameless plea post. I will now leave everyone alone, and return to being overly excited quietly over here.

BiB and MAD Blog Awards

Sorry for being that annoying person, but…if you enjoy my blog, have a bit of time, and are feeling very generous, I would love it if you would nominate me in the BiB and/or the MAD blog awards.

BiB Awards

The BiB awards are run by BritMums. Nominations close on 13th April 2016, and information about the awards and how the process works can be found here.

I would love to be nominated in the Writer category, but would alternatively be thrilled with nomination in any of the other categories my blog fits (Family, Fresh Voice, Writer, Readers’ Choice).

You can nominate your favourite blogs using the nomination form.

(If you do feel like nominating me, for ease, the details they require on me and the blog are here:
Blog Name – R is for Hoppit
Blog url – http://risforhoppit.uk
Blogger’s Twitter ID – @sillymummy88
Blogger’s email – sillymummy88@gmail.com)

 
MAD Awards

The MAD awards are run by Tots100. Nominations close on 8th April 2016, and information about the awards and how the process works can be found here.

The MAD nomination form has two parts. Firstly, you fill in your favourite blog for ‘Blog of the Year’. Obviously, I am not trying to submit myself for that – please nominate your favourite outstanding blog! However, on the next page there are ‘other categories’, and I would love to be nominated in the Pre-school category (alternatively my blog does also fit New Blog and Writer, and I would of course appreciate any nomination in any category).

You can nominate using the nomination form.

 
 

Thank you for reading this shameless piece of annoying self promotion. Of course, please feel free to completely ignore me – I’m just providing the information in case anyone does feel inclined to nominate me.

And, if you do…thank you so much!

Only the Weak Are Cruel *

peace-dove-588081_1280 Possibly the only political/non-parenting post I will do.

This is not going to relate to any specific events, but to something that I have noticed before and noticed again over the past week. That is the insinuation made by many that to be on the ‘left’ is to be weak, cowardly, ineffective, even a threat to security.

I say the ‘left’, and certainly those who make these claims tend to make them saying they are referring to the (‘loony’) left. Nonetheless, it is not really my intention to be too rigid or bogged down in the terminology and classifications of political allegiances here. It would be true to say that the views referred to as evidence of this ‘weakness’ and ‘danger’ tend to be more associated with left wing politics. However, it is, of course, the views themselves that are really under attack, regardless of whether those who hold them would class themselves as politically left wing.

The views being vilified as evidence of weakness, cowardice and threat to security are those supporting pacifism and use of non-violent methods where possible, equality and inclusion, multiculturalism, and greater social justice. Those who classify these traits as weak and dangerous tend to be those who themselves express views leaning, to a greater or lesser extent, towards nationalism, militarism, border controls, homogenous societies, and either ‘each for himself’ or ‘protect your own’ views on welfare and social justice.

This is what I find interesting. To me, a coward would be someone whose response to fear is to want to hide, protect themselves, and abandon others who are more afraid and in more danger because they are ‘not my problem’. To me, weakness is when someone feels so threatened by anyone different to them, so unable to understand experiences unlike their own, that they want to be surrounded only by people just like them. Weakness is when hatred and fear lead a person to consider it justifiable to spread ignorance and lies just to support their own prejudices. Resorting to violence and promoting division is not to me an effective policy, or one that is in the interests of security. Scapegoating of innocent people, and reliance on the spread of misinformation through propaganda, do not make safer societies.

By contrast, what of those who will fight for greater equality and justice; stand up for the vulnerable; and show compassion, tolerance and calm, rational consideration in the face of hatred, discrimination and hysteria? Well, I would call them strong people. I would say it takes less courage to face your opponents with bigger weapons than they have and gun them down, than to be willing to try to face them with reason and understanding and attempt to talk them down. Of course, this is not always possible, and few would argue it is. However, maintaining that diplomacy should always be the first aim, that violence and force should not go beyond that which is absolutely necessary, and that justice through the law should be preferred to summary execution when practical, is not cowardice. It is having the strength not to succumb to panic, and the conviction that our societies and our civilisation are worth fighting for, which means protecting the importance of core tenets like the Rule of Law. It is not allowing anger to make you become no better than those you would oppose and condemn.

I would like to briefly mention the specific case of Jeremy Corbyn. A man who has principles he will stand up for, no matter how unpopular. A man who will respond with what he feels is right from a rational, fair and evidence based perspective, even though many want instead an hysterical, disproportionate response. A man who is personally attacked and ridiculed for the stance he takes by many in the public, the media and his political opponents, but does not lower himself to making similar personal attacks in response. Now, I don’t really consider it relevant whether you happen to agree with his policies and beliefs or not, but I think you have to be extremely misguided to think that he is a weak character. Even more so to think that he is the weak person in comparison to someone like David Cameron. Corbyn may be quiet, he may be peaceful, his views may seem unusual in this political day and age, but he is not weak, he is not cowardly, he is not a threat.

Finally, it is worth considering some of those who have been known for their fights for equality, for their commitment (where possible) to non-violence, for their promotion of religious and racial tolerance, or for their efforts to create fairer societies: Martin Luther King Jr, Nelson Mandela, Gandhi, Aung San Suu Kyi, Malala Yousafzai, Dietrich Bonhoeffer. Can any of these people be called weak, cowardly, ineffective, a threat? How about some well known proponents of nationalism, elitism, persecution, militarism, religious and racial prejudice, or closed borders? Hitler, Nick Griffin, Donald Trump, Oswald Mosley, Enoch Powell? What would we call them? More importantly, when the evidence is considered, can we say that those who have pursued peace, equality and tolerance are the ones who have failed to make a difference, to do good for the safety and stability of the world? No? Well, then those who expound those ideologies probably aren’t a threat to security, are they? They may even be sensible, rational and – shock – right.

But, of course, those who make these allegations about the ‘lefties’ and the ‘bleeding hearts’ and the pacifists know all of this, don’t they? They know that far from being weak, these people are stronger than they are. They are simply trying to undermine those who pose a threat to their fragile world view, their pursuit of their prejudices.

It is well to remember that, for all the popularity Hitler’s views once held with many, in the cold light of day, we recognise and admire the tolerance, compassion and pacifism of people like Dietrich Bonhoeffer.

(*’Only the weak are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong.’ – Leo Buscaglia)