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My Name Is Silly Mummy, and I Am a Rubbish Birth Planner

birth-961805_1920I have seen lots of birth plans. Lovely birth plans. Birth plans made by people who have conscientiously researched and deliberated in order to plan for the best birth possible. Hypnobirthing, home water births, doulas. I’m very impressed by these plans, but they do make me wonder if there are other people like me out there. People who didn’t exactly, well, bother.

Am I the only person whose interest in the birth plan was somewhat, um, limited? Anyone? Rubbish pregnant women of the world: unite! Please.

Maybe I’m a bit negative, or a bit lazy, but it seemed to me that the birth was going to happen anyway, and be unpleasant anyway, so I kind of didn’t bother much with the plans for it.

My birth plan was primarily for the baby to exit my person. Preferably without anaesthetics (I’m scared of anaesthetics).

Now, I’m not entirely useless: I did give some consideration to the details. In so far as I filled out the NHS birth plan you can get online. Well, I say I filled it out. For the most part, I looked at it and thought, ‘How should I bloody know if I will want a ball, or am going to stand up? I don’t know what I’ll feel like at the time.’

My birth plans therefore read as follows: don’t know, don’t know, don’t know, NO EPIDURAL, don’t know, don’t know, don’t care, couldn’t give a rat’s arse, yes to random injections for everyone as required (as long as they’re not secretly epidurals), don’t care, don’t know.

To my knowledge, no one ever looked at my birth plans, so I’m quite glad I didn’t make the effort. As it turns out, to the extent that I made birth plans, they were entirely realistic and followed to a tee – the babies came out. That’s a win for the rubbish pregnant women, right? Right?

 
 
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She Witnessed a Birth (and Something About Mirrors in Bums)

(This is a post I originally wrote as a guest post for Life, Love and Dirty Dishes‘ Rookie Mistakes series.)

 
 
So, for this post, I was thinking of various parenting errors and rookie mistakes that may have been made in the Silly household. I could mention ‘I don’t need to take a spare outfit for The Baby and The Toddler, The Toddler never needs a change of clothes’. Wrong. I could mention the genius idea to clean up a poo-in-bath incident by whipping The Toddler straight out of the bath and into the shower. Leading to a poo-in-shower incident. Obviously.

I could certainly mention the time Silly Daddy left the fitting for one of those car child mirrors in the car seat, and then strapped The Toddler, back when she was a baby, into it. The (Baby) Toddler was inexplicably fussy on that journey. It was discussed.
‘What’s wrong with her?’
‘I don’t know. She keeps going to sleep for about five minutes before waking up and fussing for no apparent reason. It’s weird.’
Yes, weird. Inexplicable. The result of having a bit of plastic sticking in her bum.

I thought of all of these, but then I remembered that The Toddler witnessed a birth. The Baby’s birth. Probably not something to aim for as a parent, is it? I believe the traditional procedure is for someone to look after the older sibling during the birth. You know, away from the blood, screaming and placenta.

I have posted about The Baby’s birth before, and mentioned The Toddler’s presence. To summarise, The Baby decided to arrive in a considerable hurry, and therefore had an unscheduled home birth. As it was around 7am, The Toddler had been asleep, but was awoken by the arrival of paramedics. This left Silly Daddy with a dilemma: miss The Baby’s birth or leave The Toddler crying in her room. Or bring The Toddler to the birth. So The Toddler (then 15 months old) was brought to the birth. In case anyone is absolutely horrified, I should add that if she blinked she could literally have missed it, so that’s something.

So, yes, The Toddler was pottering around in the background. She may have been looking in the paramedics’ bags. Definitely a fail. Though a shared fail by the paramedics and the Silly parents, that one. She was certainly in the paramedics’ paperwork, which probably breached data protection.

There you have it: a fifteen month old witnessing a birth (and an after birth); a probably screaming mummy; a definitely screaming, blood-covered baby; messing around with important paperwork; and possibly rooting about in medical equipment. Not exactly a rookie parenting mistake, perhaps, but probably frowned upon. The hospital certainly wouldn’t have allowed it: birth partners have to be at least five years old.

In fairness, the options were limited. Silly Daddy had literally seconds to decide before he would have missed the birth, and Silly Mummy was distracted. Plus, The Toddler had a great time, and a paramedic gave her breakfast later. She appeared entirely unfazed by the birth, no sign of trauma.* As far as The Toddler is concerned, evidently, Silly Daddy leaving a mirror fitting up her bum was a much worse parenting fail than letting her witness a birth.

(*The same cannot be said for when she saw the Harry Potter dementors. That was a rookie mistake: ‘She loved Philosopher’s Stone and Chamber of Secrets, let’s watch Azkaban.’)

Rookie Mistakes