Who Is This?

Who Is ThisThe Toddler is in the play area at the doctors’ surgery. She has made a friend. Her new friend is a little girl who appears to be around three, about a year older than The Toddler. As a more experienced toddler, The New Friend knows more of the words to ‘Ring a Ring o Roses’ than The Toddler. This causes great excitement. Furthermore, The New Friend appears to be as obsessed with ‘Ring a Ring o Roses’ as The Toddler is. This causes even greater excitement. The Toddler is unaccustomed to people spontaneously engaging her in ‘Ring a Ring o Roses’. Usually, ‘Ring a Ring o Roses’ only occurs after several minutes of jumping, emphatic arm waving, and yells of ‘Ring Pock’ and ‘Stand up!’ from The Toddler. The Toddler is delighted with her new friend.

The New Friend, with her advanced lyrical knowledge, appears slightly bemused by the ‘ring a pock…choo…fall down’ version of the song now being hollered by The Toddler. Nonetheless, numerous renditions are enjoyed. Two head to nose collisions occur. The New Friend cries. The Toddler is too excited to cry. The Toddler says sorry, though she was not particularly at fault. (The Toddler routinely says sorry in any situation in which she has concluded that someone probably needs to apologise. She is unconcerned with whether she is saying sorry for herself or for someone else. She is merely pleased that she has correctly identified a ‘sorry’ situation.) The Toddler and The New Friend move on to a new game in the play area. The exact nature of the new game is unclear to outsiders, but the new game is extremely entertaining.

A boy, probably a little older than The New Friend, enters the play area. He approaches The Toddler and The New Friend cautiously. The Toddler does not notice him. She is playing. The boy stands there. He is unsure what to do. It appears he may want to play with the girls, but he remains wary. They are awfully loud. They are engaged in a game that is as incomprehensible as it is exuberant. They may be dangerous.

The Toddler looks up. She sees the boy. She moves closer to the boy. She points at him. She says loudly, apparently to the room in general, ‘Who is this?’ The little boy is taken aback. He is unprepared. He did not expect to be required to confirm his identity. He is uncertain whether the question is even being asked of him: is someone else being asked to confirm his identity? Does he need references? He fears further interrogation along the lines of ‘where did you come from?’ and ‘why are you here?’ may follow. He looks scared and backs up slightly. The situation is, as he feared, dangerous.

The danger has not passed. The Toddler asked a question. She has not received a response. Who on earth this interloper to the play area is remains unanswered. The Toddler looks at Silly Mummy, she points at The Scared Boy again: ‘Mummy! Who is this??’ The Scared Boy backs right out of the play area. Silly Mummy suggests to The Toddler that she could ask The Scared Boy his name. The Toddler has lost interest. The Scared Boy had his chance.

The Scared Boy watches The Toddler and The New Friend in awe. He follows them from a distance, not daring to approach again. He does not try to speak to them. The Toddler has inadvertently become the intimidating, commanding Ruler of the Play Area. She is unaware of her new position. She just wondered who the boy was. ‘Hello, nice to meet you. I’m The Toddler, what’s your name?’ is a level of sophistication she has yet to achieve in her greetings. She takes a direct approach: ‘Who is this?’, ‘Sit there!’ (She does, in fact, do ‘pleased to meet you’. It involves yelling, ‘Meet! Meet!’ at people, whilst grabbing at their hands. It may not have reassured The Scared Boy.) The Toddler does not know that being referred to loudly, with accompanying jabbing finger, as ‘this’ is considered by some to be mildly off putting.

It is likely The Scared Boy would have been even more confused had he known that The New Friend had neatly side-stepped any (unintentionally aggressive) question of who she was by launching directly into ‘Ring a Ring o Roses’. The Toddler knew all she needed to know immediately. Introductions between fellow ‘Ring Pock’ fanatics are, evidently, extremely unnecessary.


  1. Anne says:

    ‘silly mummy,’ another fascinating account of toddler’s interactions at the doctor’s surgery. I just love reading these accounts. Now left wondering how toddler interacted with the doctor! Her social skills are brilliant, as are ‘silly mummy’s interpretations.

    • Silly Mummy says:

      Thank you for reading! They do become funnier and funnier as toddlerhood progresses (though maybe not from the perspective of Scared Boys!) – enjoy it!

  2. Ahhh toddler interaction is just the best. Zach is terrible for pointing and saying who’s that?! It’s his second favourite to what’s that! Sometimes, even when we’ve told him what it is, he still asks over and over! He’s also a bossy little pants! They sound quite similar hehe! Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

    • Silly Mummy says:

      They do! The Toddler continues to ask ‘what’s that?’ after we’ve told her too! Thank you for reading!

    • Silly Mummy says:

      Thank you, that’s lovely! & ‘making the world her own’ is such a nice way of saying ‘terrorising small boys’! Thanks for popping by!

  3. Katie says:

    Aww, this is so sweet. having worked with (and raised) my fair share of toddlers I am always tickled by their interactions with each other. Thanks for linking up with #sundaystars x

  4. Catie says:

    Love it! Perhaps We should all begin our interactions with a song. I once knew a head teacher who did things like that, very interesting. Thanks for linking up such a cracking post to #fbfriday

    • Silly Mummy says:

      Thank you! Yes, perhaps we all should do that! Of course, no one would then speak to me due to my appalling singing voice! Thanks for hosting!

  5. Steph says:

    Toddler brains are so wonderful to watch. One of the reasons I’m so glad we’ve signed….we get an early glimpse into these moments. I can only imagine list of things I’ll have to sort through to tell embarrassing stories to my future daughter-in-laws!

    • Silly Mummy says:

      Haha – I’m sure your future daughter-in-laws will love the embarrassing stories! Yes, we enjoy signing too. The Toddler liked to use them to give us an early glimpse of her wanting more raisins! Thanks for reading!

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